Established Relationships in Lockdown: What Now?

Established Relationships in Lockdown: What Now?

To say that the last few months have been hard for relationships is… an understatement, to say the least – especially for those that live away from their partners.

When England went into its first full national lockdown, the rules were strict but clear: you were to stay at home, and only leave if it was vitally necessary.

The rules were kept strict about social distancing and household mixing for some time until… it was announced that, effective from Tuesday, 22nd September, couples in England in so-called “established relationships” would no longer have to socially distance if they didn’t live together. Hurray!

The local lockdown issue

Well… for a bit. When cases began to spike as Summer came to a close, restrictions were slowly brought back, culminating in the ‘local COVID alert levels’ or Tiers, we have now. These levels plunged certain areas into ‘local lockdowns’ with far greater restrictions on movement, socialising and visiting other households. Invariably, the question surrounding the established relationships’ rule was brought up…

Nowhere in the underlying regulation and legislation, or even the specific COVID alert level guidance documents, was there even a single reference to ‘relationships’, established or otherwise.

However, the government guidance that seemed to permit those in established relationships to forgo the social distancing rules, explicitly stated that the overarching social distancing rules applied to “all local COVID alert levels”.

In all honesty, we – alongside a lot of the media – were confused – did established couples now have to socially distance in all tiers? Just the higher tiers? Outdoors or just indoors?


Even Full Fact, an independent fact-checking organisation in the UK, was far from entirely clear of the rules, stating that:

Government guidance that applies to all alert levels says you do not need to socially distance from anyone in your household or support bubble, or anyone you are in an “established relationship” with. If you are in the early stages of a relationship, the guidance says you should “take particular care to follow the guidance on social distancing”. But if you are in an area with a higher alert level, you may not be able to meet with someone you’re in a relationship with unless you live together or have formed a support bubble

Similarly, a BBC News article on “What are the social distancing rules?” published on Thursday, 29th October, continues to assert that:

The only people you do not need to socially distance from are: people in your household, anyone in your support bubble, if you have one and your partner in an established relationship

Yet, the regulations – which have ‘greater’ legal force than mere guidance –  bringing in the alert level system doesn’t mention this exemption whatsoever. In the ‘Very High’ Tier, known as Tier 3, the regulations state:

No person may participate in a gathering in the Tier 3 area which consists of two or more people, and takes place in a private dwelling or in any indoor space.

The regulations go on to list a number of exemptions… but not that of ‘established relationships’.

We seek clarity…

So, in an attempt to gain some semblance of clarity on the matter, we reached out to the Department for Health and Social Care (DHSC)… several times. In the first instance, we specifically asked whether the established relationship rule was even still in place.

A DHSC spokesperson confirmed that:

The number of settings individuals in established relationships can meet in under the new tier system are reduced

Unless individuals are in a support or childcare bubble or meeting under one of the specific exceptions in law, then people meeting indoors, including private dwelling and indoor public spaces like hospitality, will be breaking the law in tier 2 and tier 3 areas.

Those rules also apply to outdoor areas of indoor venues such as beer gardens in tier 3 areas but not to outdoor spaces like parks. That rule also applies outside affected areas if one person lives in a tier 2 or 3 affected area.

Okay… but this then raises the question as to whether those in established relationships need to socially distance outside and why the guidance remains up and active. So, we, yet again, reached out.

A DHSC spokesperson then confirmed that:

The rule of six would apply outside – meaning no more than 6 people from different households meeting and those in different households must socially distance

In other words confirming that the established relationships rule is no more. But, this wasn’t made clear by the government on any webpage or in any legislation. The only reason we have managed to figure this out is because we are fortunate enough to be able to get a reply from the DHSC. And even then, it’s not particularly clear.

Luckily, we later had a reply confirming that the guidance would change. The DHSC spokesperson has said:

[The DHSC are] already looking into making changes to this page so that it fully lines up with the local alert level restrictions

Although this was welcomed news, we were not yet clear what the guidance would be. With many areas set to go into Tiers 2 and 3 and the rumours of a second national lockdown, anything could have happened…

The National Lockdown

In the days after contacting the DHSC, the November lockdown was introduced. As this unified the country under the same coronavirus restrictions, clarification was not needed on whether couples could meet up in different areas under different restrictions – just what the national rules were.

Fortunately, this time, the government gave clarification:

From 5 November, you must not meet socially indoors with family or friends unless they are part of your household, meaning the people you live with, or your support bubble. This includes anyone you are in an established relationship with but do not live with – unless they are in your support bubble. Couples that do not live together and are not in a support bubble with each other can continue to see each other outdoors

So, while this likely isn’t the news that couples were hoping for, at least it is now clear. When the tiered approach is reintroduced in early December, we will look to see whether the rules surrounding established relationships have been made clear for all tiers. If not, we will again seek clarification.

After all, we’re in a national crisis – and couples shouldn’t have to worry about whether seeing each other is against the law or not. This should be made clear, and articles such as this should not have to be written.

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